It can be tough to compose yourself when others impose. Here's some advice:

 * "Neither a borrower nor a lender be," wrote Shakespeare. Tell that to your neighbour, who needs $200 because he's just a bit behind with the rent. When it comes to lending money, be firm. If the amount is excessive, or you're uncomfortable lending at all, say so. If you do lend, clarify when you expect the money back - and how (eg, lump sum or instalments).

* When people borrow items (such as your mower), borrow something from them, too (say their pressure washer) and suggest the merits of this "exchange programme". They'll either agree or stop borrowing.

* People who tell you what you should wear or how your house could be improved can seem pushy, but they may simply have overdosed on TV makeover programmes. Thank them for their ideas and just ignore them.

* When subtle suggestions (such as "I have to get up early") don't work, be direct with guests who won't leave. Etiquette columnist Judith Martin suggests acting as if you're the one leaving. Get up, say, "It was wonderful having you here - we must do this again," and remain standing. They'll get the hint.

Tip: Try to keep a lid on your temper. When someone's behaviour makes you angry, count to ten.